Is this true? Am I missing something?
As always, to accurately answer your question, you would need to benchmark your specific circumstances and workload.
Personally I use Debian Bookworm as my desktop. But prefer to use Alpine Linux for servers with external access. I have tried various BSDs, but I find the cognitive load of remembering two different ways of doing many sysadmin tasks an unnecessary burden.
Also, I feel like FreeBSD will eventually enter the "immutable server distro" space. ZFS boot environments have had 1st class support for over a decade already. New container advancements are being made on FreeBSD every year. I really believe it could compete hard with Fedora Atomic and OpenSuse MicroOS.
If using it, did you tune it, or the Linuxen, or let them be at their defaults, more or less?
How do you expect/want to use it?
Would 'less churn' be of value to you?