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How do you do IRL community?


Atheism is gaining ground. Religions are out of fashion. Western nuclear families and the way our cities are constructed discourage deep rooted community connections. There’s a loneliness epidemic.

I feel the need for it stronger than ever. I grew up in a cult and the one thing that could be said for it, was it had a great community in many ways.

Well now I’m no longer in the cult, with two small kids and wondering how to fill in that hole —- just one that isn’t a cult. But maybe you have kinda be culty to be part of something in the first place?

I’m reminded of the excellent essay from dynomight, 3rd section: https://dynomight.net/plans/

So, how do you do IRL community? I mean deep, meaningful connection: the pickleball league isn’t gonna cut it against the tide of modern individualism.

  👤 Quinzel Accepted Answer ✓
I suppose it depends on whether you prefer collectivist cultures vs individualistic cultures. I’m personally very individualistic I keep my circles small and seperate. I have my work “community” and I have my family, which I don’t interact with my extended family much as I grew up quite isolated from them. I also join clubs from time to time, to meet new people, but I don’t really have a a big community I’m feel part of, and I’m ok with that. But if you’re looking for community, joining a sports club, or a charity organisation or something like that can be a good place to start.