The reason being the people I know. I compare myself with them. Many of them are highly successful people with big businesses in manufacturing/import-export.
When I look at them, I feel super inferior and I want to do something about it but I don't know where to begin. I'm a software engineer, 24 years old, working remotely, living with my parents, and making around 65k euros. I love my job, I love the people there but everytime I look at the people I know who are way better off, I feel like I have accomplished nothing, absolutely nothing!
I know it's easy for people to tell me to be patient but I feel rather helpless and it's causing me a lot of stress. Everytime I look at people I know who are well off, live in nice villas in Europe and have a great and happy family, I get a bit depressed because I don't have those things. I live in an old, small house. I live in a polluted city and I don't have any friends, I haven't ever traveled.
I want to do good, I am doing good already compared to many people my age but I still can't help compare myself with people who are like 30-40 years old. Part of that is that they don't tell me much about their struggles, or how they started and how much they earn so I feel a little lost.
Could you please guide me and help me with this problem? I'm sick of this stress and it's affecting my decision making and peace. I am a capable software engineer who loves to make projects but I've never built my own business. I don't know how much I have to earn, how much I can earn and how many years I have to wait till I'll be half as good as them and that causes me pain.
Could you please help me with this? Give me a new perspective?
But I will go further. Comparison is a game where you can only lose. So stop playing.
Why do I say you can only lose? Let's say you become one of those 40-year-olds that you're comparing yourself to. Well, now you have moved up to a new peer group, and you have a new set of people to compare yourself to. Now you can compare yourself to 50- to 60-year-olds who go to Davos.
And even if you're Bill Gates, the richest man in the world... oops, you were the richest man in the world, but now you're not. And Musk has both Tesla and SpaceX.
If Bill Gates can lose at the comparison game, you're not going to win at it. So as I said, stop playing.
And if you think about Bill Gates, or hypercompetitive athletes, or Larry Ellison, you see that this kind of "I have to win the comparison game" can turn people into real jerks. Worry less about external success compared to others, and more about what kind of person you are becoming.
You are jelous of their money and these guys are jelous of your erections
erections > money
The only problem is that you are killing them with your anxiety and if you kill them then they’d have an advantage again because if 2 guys have both problems with erections then it’s better to be the guy who has more money.
You might not notice it but even stuff like writing this post or doubting yourself is killing your erections so stop.
I am using erections because I assume you are a highly competitive and ego/money driven guy, there is nothing you would not sacrifice to make more money: relationships, friends, mental health, physical health, diet…..but not erections, would you accept losing you erections forever for 200bn dollars? I don’t think so.
Economists say there is no free meal, well there really isn’t. When you doubt yourself you are actively stabbing your penis and killing your erections and at 65k/yr you are way past the point where selfdoubt leads to accomplishments that make them come back stronger.
The world is much less violent than it used to be: 99,999% of the warfare is psychological. When you are doubting yourself you are actively opening fire on your positions, you are not only making your enemies win but they are winning thanks to your self destruction.
So you better delete this post or I’ll catch a plane and come there to kick you in the nuts until you pass out . So you’d be at least able to tell other guys that you lost your erections because of a vicious attack from a maniac instead of self inflicted psychological damage
And get the fuck out of your parents house
idk if that helps, but as someone with a grandiosity complex: I didn't make that kind of money until well into my 30s.