- Why did you take the sabbatical in the first place? What made you consider it and eventually muster up the courage to take it in the end?
- Did you take an income while on a sabbatical?
- What were the positive benefits in hindsight related to work, relationships, family, personal meaning?
- Did you do any projects while on your sabbatical? What was the biggest benefit from it?
- Did you return to your old job? Did the sabbatical have an effect on your attitude when you returned?
- Would you have done anything differently?
- Is there anything bad out of the sabbatical that you didn't expect?
Positive benefits: learned Japanese, massively improved social skills (met more new people than the last 10 years), chance to redo university as I sort of wasted it. Got into a relationship. Had all kinds of new experiences. Hung out almost exclusively with Japanese people although getting to know people from Thailand, Taiwan, Russia etc. using Japanese as a common language was also fun.
Negative: lonely at times, I didn't work on personal projects as much as I wanted (felt like a waste), went back to my old job instead of trying to look for a new one in Japan.
So yeah, I really recommend language school, working holiday, etc. if you don't have any grand plans for your sabbatical. Be prepared that you might not work on any big projects and you might be too lazy to find a job after. But I can't imagine not having done it now. It'll always be a part of me.
Pros:
- I got to learn about myself, and try new hobbies that I never knew I would enjoy.
- It was a good reminder that there is more to life than work, and most job stress is ultimately meaningless.
- It reinforced the belief that I have autonomy, and that it's okay to simply say no and leave bad situations.
- Finding a new job after wasn't too hard, most people will understand an honest explanation for this type of hole in your resume.
Cons:
- Huge opportunity cost. Between spending and lack of income, it probably cost low 6 figures.
- It might have been better to recognize that I was burning out sooner and look for healthier alternatives, instead of hitting my breaking point and swinging hard towards the opposite end of the work spectrum.
Ultimately, it's probably the best choice I ever made. Your youth goes away very quickly, and it would have been almost impossible to do with serious health problems, a mortgage, or a family to support.
Positive benefits: cleared my head about what I wanted to work on, what I wanted to avoid, and set up multiple long term relationships (friendships, spouse, etc). Took accelerate mandarin Chinese which was interesting but utterly futile when it came to use in my career.
Negative: my previous role evaporated at the end of 2000. I did absolutely nothing to set up my next job, because as a “highly valued employee” obviously it wouldn't be a problem (I was wrong). I didn't structure the time much at all, did not write the grand book I kept telling everyone I was going to write on the down time. Although my employer touted how wonderful its sabbatical/leave of absence program was, in practice I found it ended up being a negative mark against my employment history.
Regrets? I wish I'd planned it out a bit, and planned it for a full calendar year (at least through 2001). I should have lined up a role to return to before going on leave. The economy cratered while I was out and without a lock on a role I ended up in sort of a last-resorts role that I hated. I returned to work in a really bad month for my home city and dealt poorly with that trauma while diving into the world of a traveling consultant. I ended up leaving my employer after only three months back (for a startup, which was its own disaster).
I don't regret doing it? It's taken me some time to recognize how bad a spot I was in mentally at the end of 2000 and it was pure luck that I had the option to go on leave. I did not appreciate that the combination of returning from a foreign assignment in 2000 with a sabbatical in 2001 would leave me with a really weak internal network to find a new role.
A previous comment I wrote about this: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27238018
I took unemployment.
Positive benefits: I mellowed out, started having more patience, and could see how a big source of burnout was how attached my ego was to my work.
I started working on a link shortener a couple of months ago. Despite it being a hobby project that a lot of folks undertake, building something resilient that is somewhat well-designed is a lot of work. Biggest benefit: I started looking at programming as more of something that I'm capable of instead of my self worth / value on display in pull requests.
> Did you return to your old job?
Nope.
> Would you have done anything differently?
More routine. It's liberating to be able to do what you want, as you want, but I would posit that a majority of humans thrive on routines.
> Is there anything bad out of the sabbatical that you didn't expect?
Friends and family being concerned for my well-being despite my spirits being much higher
-made choice to take a year to train myself up in animation skills. Great personal expense. Did this because my coworkers as a TD were better than any previous work experience, by astronomical distances. I cannot emphasize how much I liked them, and how contrary to my previous lived experience that was. I've done a lot of jobs mind you, including driving semis. I hated that job, not because of the work, which I still love doing, but because of the coworkers. My opinion of my former cohorts of the road has not risen in recent years.
I am now a few weeks into my second Technical Director position, and it looks to me like it's exactly as awesome as I believed it to be when I made that choice. I liked cartoons as a kid and as a grownup, but doing them was never remotely on my radar, but that is my profession now, and it's really really awesome.
If you know Python or C++, can grasp the concepts involved in vectors and shaders (watch Freya Holmer's shader courses on youtube to see if you can), and hate your current job, you might want to consider doing this instead. The pay is probably terrible relative to other Python jobs in tech, I've had the experience of listening to coworkers complain about the pay or whatever, and I just mind my business. I don't have to pull rocks for the flu klux klan anymore. Priceless.
If you have an idea of a place you want to be, and taking some time can help you get there, do not forego that opportunity, if it is available to you. Even at great expense.
Perhaps its upbringing (for me, it likely is) but the fear in "stepping away during my earning phase of life" in pursuit of what could amount to proverbial navel gazing (i appreciate the cognitive benefits of time spent performing said navel gazing, I really do), I perceive as something untenable and even selfish (again, how I would feel about myself, not others - do note, i may gaze upon thee with greenest of eyes of course)
It was hell. I burned through over $10,000 just trying to survive that year with my wife. At first I took it in stride, worked through a few books I wanted to. But then the second passport rejection came. And the third. And the fourth. I couldn't get a single person in the DFA to give me an answer beyond "don't worry, if it doesn't work we'll let you know." I began drinking heavier and heavier. I began rethinking the whole relationship that led me to such desperation.
Eventually I started timing my days around waking up at 2 pm to park myself in front of the laptop and ask them about every conceivable question or problem I could come up with; eventually I stumbled by pure luck onto what the issue _really_ was, and after getting the usual "don't worry" a few days later I got an email asking me to clarify some stuff. And then - finally - salvation arrived in the post as a little blood red book.
This probably isn't the kind of 'sabbatical' you meant, but being a quasi illegal immigrant for a year with no fallback plan because you spent the money you could have used for airfare back to a country where you can legally work again on rent last month is the kind of thing that leaves your whole inner risk portfolio a bit higher than it started.
I spent the time mostly doing personal projects that forced me to learn new skills. And to think about life, what I wanted from it, and what I wanted from my work.
My sabbatical lasted 9 months, and when I returned, I was very much happier. I also had realized that I was no longer a good fit for the position I was in, and so I quit my job. That made me even happier -- my job was a huge weight on my shoulders, and shedding it was one of the best things I ever did.
I was in no hurry to find a new job, but ended up with one three months later in an industry that I wouldn't have expected to find myself. It was a great move. My work is no longer a burden.
In hindsight, it would have been better to quit my job up front instead of taking the sabbatical, but I didn't know that's what I needed to do. So, I suppose I wouldn't have done anything differently.
Nothing bad came out of the sabbatical. Only good. Both for myself and for my (now former) employer.
In the first sabbatical, I left my job to work on a startup idea with friends, and I learned a ton from it, both technical and non technical. I did lots of side projects I'd wanted to do for a while when that flopped, which led me to learn some more technical skills I later used. I also hiked a lot more which was great. After maybe a year and a half I returned to the workforce because I missed working with people and my savings were dwindling.
In the current one, I left my job without much of a plan. I spent more time with friends and family, traveled a bit, mentored a bit, did some side projects, read more, and learned more. This time around I found I missed working with people sooner.
In both cases it was expensive but worth it. The most valuable parts were being more myself, spending time with people, and learning things I wouldn't normally.
For my life journey, these sabbaticals were transformative. I had several. I love the definition by Paul Millerd, "mini-retirement." Instead of waiting for your retirement in the sixties, take more minor once along.
Then two weeks after everything took off (1400 users to 72K users, pilot expansion to 100 locations, a dozen potential license deals, international media coverage), I got laid off. I took it way too personally and got depressed. I decided I’d never pour my heart and soul into someone else’s project ever again. I was done with tech.
Income - I knew I didn’t want to be an employee. I needed time to figure out my next steps. We sold our house fully furnished, sold our rental property, sold our cars, and sold our business. We scaled back our living to be able to live on one income. After a year I took a couple of freelance gigs.
Benefits - Deeper relationships with everyone that matters. More time for spouse, kids, family and close friends. I learned how to exercise for the sake of exercise. I did a lot of therapy and meditation and learned how to manage my expectations, be kinder to myself, and stop assigning meaning to things that don’t matter. I realized all the things I wanted, I already had.
Projects - I took a year and a half off. In that time I took a bunch of course and joined a solopreneur community. I wanted to figure out how to have work fit my life instead of the other way around. I did 100DaysOfNoCode and built over 15 apps and websites. I took Pencil Pirates and learned how to be a digital illustrator. I made 30 podcasts in 30 days with Espree Devora’s cohort course. I made info-products on Gumroad (e-books and an online course). I delivered a virtual workshop and set up an Etsy store. I tried drop shipping. My favourite project is Unstuck in 15. It’s a decision making framework I developed that helps people get unstuck in 15 minutes with 3 questions. I have a potential deal to license it through an educational institution.
Return to old job - Nope, but found my way back to tech in a way that works for me
Do anything differently - I wish I would have enjoyed the journey more. I was so focused on trying to figure out my next step that I caused myself a lot of undue stress.
Bad - I didn’t expect it to take so long for me to figure out what I wanted to do next (co-founder for hire). It would have been good to have more frequent and open conversations with my husband about this journey. I’m fortunate that he believes in me and sees the potential for a better future. We’ve always been able to grow together so we were able to weather the storm.
I’m happy to answer any other questions
- Did you eat a big chunk of your cash savings, and if so how did you cope and was it worth it.
I sometimes get inspired to do little programming projects, never more than a few days. I don’t need to work right now and I don’t have much motivation to. If something fell in my lap I’d probably go with it.
Initially after quitting, I was pretty against ever working in the tech industry proper again. With time and hindsight, my view is a bit different now. I realized that if you have means, you don’t really have anything to fear in the workplace. If it gets bad enough just tell em to fuck off. The potential of layoffs, negative feedback, asshole boss/coworkers - who cares? I can just quit. So it’s been freeing to realize that, but I’m still not motivated to dive back in.
I’m not conquering the world or doing anything interesting and I don’t aspire to. I read and hang out with my dog, if it’s nice we’ll hike or something. I volunteer. I visited another continent with an old friend. I spend a lot of time cooking, which I’ve always liked to do. I live with and support a very close friend who nearly died in 2020. I’m very proud of how she has turned things around.
I’m just living a simple, easy life. I figured I would be restless, itching to get back in the game certainly after a year or so. But it’s almost two years and it hasn’t gone that way. I have a lot of gratitude for my life and I would be fine staying this way.
I’m waiting for an IPO that will likely change my circumstances, so my life has had a flavor of “sitting in the waiting room” the last couple years. That has gotten super annoying, there’s stuff I’d like to do that I can’t yet. But it’s the tiniest problem in the world to have.