Have you tried FreshTomato on your home router? Would you recommend it?

I haven't. I have run Tomato and TomatoUSB (for vpn) and coincidentally run a site named freshtomatoes for a while.

Lately, stock modem/router + mesh wifi + uBlock Origin does the basics well enough.

What interests you in FreshTomato specifically?

with some ham and cheese, it's delightful, though it does have crunchy bits

OpenWRT here... it's much better EXCEPT for Broadcom devices.