Why do people stack plates?
It may be also be a question of how forcefully you are making your point / standing your ground on this matter. Have you considered that people may be looking at you like an alien because you are very vocal about, in the grand scheme of things, a very minor matter? I could imagine that, since this is bothering you so much that you are posting about it on HN.
And if they'll be left to sit for a good while before washing (say, I plan to wash dishes after dessert & socializing & then people leave) any food that is trapped between stacked plates does not dry onto either surface of the plate.
I can't imagine thinking that way when it comes to basic food hygiene.
If it came out of the drawer/cupboard it gets washed (by hand) all over no matter whether it was used, looks clean, fell on the floor, only has one side soiled ... All over, all the time, just as basic hygiene.
Also in our house we rinse off the (probably unhealthy) detergent before stacking to drip dry, prior to using a drying towel. I'm not at all sure what anionic surfactants are, but they don't sound like ambrosia to me.
My dish detergent of choice is antibacterial too so cloths, sponges, bowls and sink should be quite sanitary. Also using the dish cloth to wipe down prep surfaces after a meal adds some antibacterial hygiene to the kitchen.
Maybe if the household has that culture of not eating half of their portion, then there's a lot more excess food in play.
If I don't I might not stack the plates depending on the distance to the kitchen and the number of plates in total. Not stacking plates is like programming without an array / list. It can work better when you only have a few items to calculate.