In the past I have struggled, esp in larger companies. I have even been in a situation once, where for months, I had no team, no communication with the manager, and no idea of how to handle some of the work I had.
If I get assigned a complicated project whose details go over my head, or where I am unable to make progress despite effort, and I am being pressured to deliver, my instinct is to immediately exit the situation.
I see people get into teams and seemingly effortlessly set direction, make progress and deliver. Whatever I have tried to replicate that, has failed. That's on me, but I am now walking into a situation assuming I will fail.
Anyone have any advice here?
From my own experience, take effective notes, don't finish people's sentences whilst they are explaining things to you, even if you already know the answers.
It's a new stack, so you can hopefully make use of your previous experiences to help you find similarities and differences, to help guide you on what topics you should concentrate.
Ask questions, and don't be dissuaded if you receive unhelpful comments or remarks; keep asking, and keep making effective notes...
Recognise, if you can, the signs that alert you to mounting pressure, and to the associated anxiety. Use that to help you prepare for what you may see as inevitable, but what could be dealt with in a coordinated, organised manner.
Seek out and identify supportive, helpful people and teams; don't ignore those who appear less helpful because you may not be aware of their anxieties or the pressures they are experiencing. Don't align yourself too closely with any extreme, but listen to everyone.
Find mentors, but don't make mentoring a one-sided affair. Most people have something to offer, even if it's not immediately obvious. And keep learning :-)
And address the issues you are experiencing, as difficult as that may sound. Heck, you've already started, with this post...
Take on challenging tasks at risk that you will probably fail early on and be willing to ask for help. These kinds of risks are not a problem so long as it does not risk the health of the product. The struggle is how you will learn.
So stop thinking how you will screw up, and start thinking how you will succeed. Imagine yourself being successful one year from now and then imagine all the things you did to become successful. Go into details, write it down. Re-read it every time you start believing again you will screw up.
It’s like driving a car, you have to watch where you want to go, not where you don’t want to go. Because in both situations you will end up exactly there.
I’ve been in this situation myself, and learned this the hard way. So I hope this helps you avoid making the same mistake.
Making sure an individual contributor has the necessary support structure in place is a collaborative effort. Sure, you should attempt to overcome challenges, but if you aren’t being set up for success, then it isn’t really you that is failing.
> but I am now walking into a situation assuming I will fail.
Try not to create patterns and trends where none need to exist. Let this be as fresh of a challenge as you can. You’re more likely to have a better outcome if it can be a fresh start, a clean break from previous experiences.
And don't worry about doing so, or feel bad. New people have questions. That's just how it is.