Have you ever used an image consultant?

There's not a lot of context here, but I have to wonder: why not just get a good primary care doctor and a therapist? Their advice and coaching will be foundational rather than superficial. Good physical and mental health along with emotional control and self-confidence will lay a strong foundation. Then get a trainer. And then once all that's going, just get a stylist and maybe an interior designer to top it off.

I didn't get an image consultant. But I used a personal stylist after I lost 80lbs to redo my wardrobe, and it was amazing.

Every outfit he created for me got a bunch of compliments. Even today, years later, his choices still get me compliments. Using a stylist effectively taught me how to shop for stylish, high-quality clothes for myself.

What surprised me the most is that now I enjoy men's style and shopping for clothes, whereas I always used to hate it with a passion.

This is like the stereotypical MBA looking for that one dev he’s sure can built his entire app idea for him.

My personal experience so far has involved a ton of different specialists including:

- a GP

- dietician

- doing the standard blood work battery

- a couple of physician specialists

- wardrobe consultant

- familiarity with photography and using crowdsourced profile picture rating

- buddy system with friends who were also trying to lose weight

- friends who are public communications professionals

- therapist

Things I haven’t looked at but other folks might:

- personal trainer

- cosmetic specialist as you suggest

- voice trainer / voice coach

- home audiovisual setup specialist

- PR professional

- someone familiar with anti aging supplements

Most of the challenge is sequencing, consistency, follow-up, etc etc

I’m going to be blunt here. Looking at OP’s submission history on this site, there is a a lot of baggage, insecurity and unrealistic expectations to sort out first.

Start with: where is your sense of identity and self worth derived from? What is your moral compass and principles that guide your life?

So are you looking for a variant on what the Queer Eye did on Bravo Network? I had a friend (who happened to be gay but I don't think it is required) who did that sort of "get a consistent 'look' for yourself." It consisted of two parts, one doing your "colors" which was finding a palette of colors that worked well with your eye/hair/skin shade, and the other was sort of a personality quiz which tried to get to what you wanted people to "sense" about you. Sort of are you "rugged"? or "sensitive"? intelligent ? whimsical? etc. Not so much your "image" as tuning your fashion sense to reflect your "inner eye" (I know a lot of squishy words but hey, it seemed like a very squishy kind of thing.)

If THAT is what you're looking for then try fashion consultants not image consultants. (that was what my friend advertised as)

And no, he doesn't do that any more, he got married and moved to New Mexico.

For the physical image, you could use https://old.reddit.com/r/RoastMe/

I can help! I'm a philosopher trying to break into this exec/startup coaching space. My philosophy treats emotions as arguments. It's tailored to all viewpoints, even those who don't want to work on the emotion stuff.

I can help you with presentation, speaking, cadence, etc too-- lots of PR coaching experience. I have maybe ten minutes of good fashion advice for you, but that's all you really need. It'd be pay-what-you-want. I'm in SF. Contact info in profile.

Before you spend any money, calculate your BMI and address that if need be. Most of the English-speaking world is simply too fat. Fixing this is by far the most effective way to look better. And it's easy too; certainly doesn't require gym membership or anything like that. A lot of fitness guys are still mentally obese. Just walk, eat whole foods, and don't drink sugar.

You should see a psychiatrist it sounds like you have some sort of personality disorder, maybe NPD? Hope that isnt rude to say...

Yeah, I got me one of those. I'm going to marry her in a week.

Seriously, if you are male and have an SO, use them. Their advice will be honest, kind, expertly tailored to you, and best of all, free.

Why not search for a life coach, theres probably a lot of overlap between the two roles.

Two suggestions

https://twitter.com/tannerguzy

https://twitter.com/WellBuiltStyle