And look, I get it, times are tough and inflation is high. But begging for tips instead of pressuring businesses to pay their employees is not the way to go. I've also stopped eating out as much for dine-in food for the same reason. Food prices have gone up enough at my local Chipotle, I don't feel the need to eat out and experience a $30 8oz steak, poorly cooked, from my local Olive Garden or whatever.
Edit: Looked at a below comment, if its a delivery driver or a barista or something, yes I still tip as that involves the driver spending most of their time to deliver something specifically for me or the barista hand-making my coffee.
That said, I am very sick of getting asked to tip before anything is rendered-- such as at the counter of a cafe where I have coffee or a pastry.
Tipping a dollar for a coffee to a barista who lacks any customer service skills is a pain. If they're actually friendly, I don't mind as much.
What's worse is a cafe that asks for a $1 tip at a self-service coffee refill station, lol.
But yeah, this whole "We're paid a decent hourly wage, but we'll still have our cash register ask for a tip, even before your food arrives at the counter, where you take it to your own table" thing is insane.
Tips are meant for restaurant servers -- because they don't make even minimum wage. Tips are't meant for every aspect of the service industry. It gets to become extortive.
I don’t work at a FAANG (or whatever the term is now) and I don’t make anywhere close to SV money. But I also don’t make $15/hr and I believe in “love your neighbor as yourself.”
I used to order a lot and tip cash.
The other day I tried to order:
- Pizza: 13€ (9€ if bought directly from an equivalent restaurant)
- Service fee: 1,5€
- Delivery fee: 4€
So I'm paying 18,5€ for a 9€ pizza and I'm also expected to tip +20% (~4€) that makes the entire endeavor too expensive and not worth ordering (even before tipping).
Bar: $1/beer, $2/cocktail, more if I'm a regular.
All counter/self/coffee shop/etc serve: no unless it's big/complicated enough that it's basically a dine-in order.
Delivery: 15%, but a delivery fee (from the restaurant) will replace that, I'm not doing both. Doordash/etc fees are my problem for being lazy, and I generally try to avoid using those services.
No. The staff literally handed me paper cup.
Am I tipping the person who brewed the coffee and put it on the shelf(where I pour it myself)? I just paid 2 dollars for a cup of coffee. Is that not enough?
It's so crazy.
Tipping is dehumanising for both the server and the served. It often is downright humiliating to the served as well.
Even the simple question that pops up in mind — am I giving high enough, is it too high, will I be looked down upon if it ended up being less. Do servers greatly prefer who tip more or “look like” will tip more anyway — yes, they do! I don’t want to be part of this game. Fix the price - let me be done with it. In India, restaurants have something called “service charge” (not service tax) and if it’s there I don’t tip - it’s an official thing. I just don’t. I usually don’t tip anyway. And I understand beyond reasonable doubt it has nothing to do with income disparity. That’s a truth and it’s everywhere - from hospital, grocery store, etc to kid’s school etc that you and the server both might approach. I don’t want to make this habit of “wondering” about tip every time. In fact at the end of the meal it was becoming a not so good experience.
My worst experience around tipping was in Paris. I had politely asked “Can I have a shake?” and the young lady on the counter said in a terse loud tone “please!” and baffled I said “excuse me?” and then she pretty much shouted “please!!!” and for some reason my brain worked and I realised it was for demand of a “please” being added in my request. I was really embarrassed and I apologised and asked again with a “please”. She then moved and brought the glass and put in on table with audible force (few people turned towards the counter) while sternly looking at me, with bill. I paid the exact amount. Then she said in semi raised voice “tip?”. I again politely said "no tip" and left. The tip has become a misplaced entitlement.
(I asked around. I was told that it was shitty of her to demand a please especially in that manner. My hostel manager said that a Parisian would have had given her “piece of mind”).
So I am not even talking about minimum wage and better labour practises (that’s actually pretty shit in India by the way). In fact it should be kept as far away from tipping as much possible! Tipping should have nothing to do with labour practices and minimum wage. Nothing!!
One of my favourite places here is a cafe that mentions “We do not accept tips!” and guess what that’s the only place where I have not seen entirely or many new staff if I don’t visit for 2 or a even full 1 month.
Desperate times.
My rule, if you hand delivered stuff to me, either you already got paid via shipping fee or you'll get tipped.
Oldest form of gratitude, making it complicated should be duly and overtly shunned.
I’d encourage anyone who can afford it to do the same.
Now, I only dine at places with no tips.