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📣 c7DJTLrn

Anyone else dread the gift exchange part of Christmas?


I'm not a scrooge, I like Christmas. I like having some time off, being with family, having a nice meal.

The whole thing of exchanging gifts just fills me with dread. I know I'm going to get stuff I don't really need or want. I have my own money, if I need something I'll buy it for myself. At best it will be chocolate or alcohol, even though I'd like to stop drinking.

I suck at buying gifts for other people. I can buy gift cards but that's just transmuting money into something less valuable. I'll usually try to think of something I have in common with the person I'm buying for and buy a book or something, but from what it sounds like they usually get sent to the shelf graveyard.

I just feel like Christmas is excessively consumerist and wasteful. Not to mention all of this is creating excess pollution. Lots of us order things online, receive it in a cardboard box and plastic, unwrap it, only to wrap it back up in paper and plastic again. It's really silly.

I wish it was socially acceptable to say "don't buy me anything because I'm not buying you anything." My immediate family probably wouldn't take heed and my extended family definitely wouldn't. Then on Christmas Day I'll look like a real asshole, especially being a breadwinner.


  👤 soueuls Accepted Answer ✓
I don't celebrate Christmas (I come from a European family that normally do).

I don't really believe in timed, organized gathering. People I am meeting once a year are by definition not really important in my context.

Since I quit being an employee, I think the concept of weekend, holidays and such have lost their meaning.

This will likely change if I adopt a kid soon.


👤 zelienople
Occasion-related giving is madness on a finite planet. It is one of the main drivers of the waste economy. We buy things people don't need and exchange them for things we don't need.

I refuse, on principle, to buy or give or receive gifts for "occasions".

A friend recently had her television fail, out of warranty and could not afford to replace it. I bought her a new one with a 6-year warranty. I bought it on the length and strength of the warranty above all else. That gift was needed and appreciated.

I have no problem giving. I just refuse to do it mindlessly in response to a ringing bell and for no reson other than idiotic social convention.

This is an existential issue at this point.


👤 db48x
Buying good gifts is a skill you can learn. I can’t claim to be particularly good at it, but I do know that it requires careful attention to the other party throughout the prior year(s). Pay attention for the times when they express admiration or desire for something, but then don’t actualy follow through and buy it.

👤 Minor49er
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