HACKER Q&A
📣 twayt

How do you speak about people who have left the company?


A strong contributor recently left our team and I was pleasantly surprised by the appreciation the team lead had for their work and how they took a moment to mention the individuals contributions even though they weren’t present.

In contrast, in a startup that I worked at, the team lead would make it a point to trivialize anything the person who left had worked on even if they were an exceptionally strong contributor.

Just curious what everyone’s experience is


  👤 smsm42 Accepted Answer ✓
> the team lead would make it a point to trivialize anything the person who left had worked on

That guy ^ is a jerk. Also, you have to consider that in many areas, a lot of people know each other and talk to each other. So it's both morally and practically wrong to downplay somebody's work. And really, there's no reason to - one has to be a completely insecure ass to consider somebody else doing a good job being some kind of a threat to them. I'd say if anything, err on the side of more praise and recognition - after all, what the worst that could happen? They won't get promoted instead of you - they already left anyway! And if people see that you are willing to give credit when the credit is due - both your credit and your complaints, if it becomes necessary, will be take seriously.


👤 bell-cot
In general, you want to work with & for the first sort of person (objectively recognizing contributions). Not the second (which suggests an immature worldview and narrow tribalism).

👤 CM30
From my experience, most places have appreciated the work ex employees have done in the past, and have tended not to downplay their contributions. And that's how I speak about them too. Don't have anything bad to say about any previous colleagues.

👤 brudgers
Having grown up among assholes, I spent many years being surprised when people were kind.

Age has made me a fan of the no-asshole rule.