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📣 aftook

How to deal with a bully co-worker?


How to deal with a bully co-worker?


  👤 eranation Accepted Answer ✓
More context / details will help get a better answer. But in general

- first, document everything, keep private notes on any bullying interaction, you'll need examples for any step down the road.

- then I'd talk to them 1:1, ask them if they are aware of how their behavior affects you

- if they are smart, they'll say something in the lines of "oh, sorry bro, I didn't know it bothers you" and hopefully stop

- if this continues or they stop for a while then resume, check if you have any peers that might back you up.

- after you have that, talk to your manager before you talk to HR. HR's sole purpose is to protect the company, not you.

- if this doesn't work out and you can do an internal transfer to another team, that might be the best option

- looking for another job is also on the table of course

- if you can't don't want to switch teams / find another job, and your manager wasn't able to help you, talk to HR.


👤 Minor49er
Take it up with your manager and with HR if you can't resolve it with the coworker directly