Perhaps companies should better look after their employees and give them a reason not to leave. Many of us are fed up of being underpaid and undervalued. Add to that the increasing demands to return to an office and it's not hard to see why we're jumping ship to work for businesses that pay better and offer remote working arrangements.
I changed jobs almost a year ago and have zero regrets. I had a long tenure too. What did it get me? Maybe a 2-4% raise a year if I was lucky (which we all know is a pay cut in disguise when you consider inflation). None of us should feel that we have to be loyal to a business. That same business would lay you off in a heartbeat if it would save them money.
There has been a huge uptick of “I hate my new job what should I do?” posts in an advice/mentoring community I’m part of.
The common theme in the posts is people who had quite comfortable positions at their previous employer but maybe didn’t realize it at the time. They went out and got higher paying jobs at companies that were desperately in need of engineers where they tend to have higher wages, shorter interviews to get people in the door. When the new job demands higher performance commensurate with the higher compensation and the company want everyone performing at a high level, it comes as a shock to the system to people who were accustomed to lax companies with lax delivery schedules.
Of course there are people for whom the opposite has happened or who are doing the same work for better pay now. Those people are happy! But I think the “great resignation” narrative being repeated over and over again created a lot of FOMO that also churned people out of otherwise comfortable jobs at good companies, with mixed results.
While this line gets a lot of attention, I want to attack the misconception too:
You owe your employer exactly what's in your contract. That's your agreement.
If you think you owe them something out of the goodness of your heart, and they have no contractual obligation to compensate you proportionally for that, then you're making unnecessary rules for yourself.
I'm not saying you shouldn't be insensitive towards knowing your employer will be screwed if you leave; but if that is truly the case, and you're not explicitly being acknowledged for this importance (contractually, monetarily, benefits-wise, responsibility-wise), you need that to grow. Where you're at, or somewhere else.
I remember talking to a past manager about how excited I was about an acquaintance who had accepted a position through my effort. The manager said he would celebrate on the day this person stepped through the door on his first day, and not sooner, because he'd seen people change their minds up until the last moment. It's just business.
A part of being a professional is being able to operate with sunk costs.
I don't blame either of them leaving though the one who is leaving again has certainly burned some bridges and lost any good will he had from the coworkers they repeatedly leave in the breach.
A lot of the comments are anti-company, and I get that though I don't they they are always deserved or relevant. In our case it's the people who didn't leave who have to deal with the extra workload while the company tries to fill positions where you can't just pluck some yahoo off the street.
In the end if you made the move because it was best for you and not out of malice then I wouldn't feel any regret.
Personally, I feel a moral duty to do my best work wherever I happen to be employed, but it's still transactional. If they treat me well, and the work is interesting, I'm more likely to stay, but it's not an obligation. Now, if some individuals really stick their neck out for me, that does buy some loyalty, but only within reason. At the end of the day it's still a business and when the winds shift leadership will have to put the overall business health ahead of individuals.
Certainly I can attest there's some greed involved in my current job hunt. But the greater factor is getting to work on what I really want to work on. I want to feel excited to go to work, like I'm serving a useful purpose, and not just contributing to society's ills and bankrolling of some rich white dudes. For me that means I have to change jobs. This is just a great time to do it.
It is not rational to treat a company like a human no matter what their policies and behaviors are, even when they are great, but especially when they don't treat you like a human.
Remember that basic thing any time anyone tries to make any other kind of argument.
If the company doesn't treat you the same way you would treat say your sister or a friend etc, complete with lending you emergency money and driving you to the airport and helping paint your deck... then they are not your friend.
Which is fine. The purpose of a company is not necessarily to be anyone's friend. A company is an artificial construct, a tool to perform a job just like a lawnmower. You don't feel guilty about replacing a lawnmower no matter how well it's served you.
People inhabit a company, but the company itself is not a person, it's a legal document and a structure of organization.
It has certain properties that make it somewhat of an entity, but so does a yeast cell.
It's not a person and it is wrong to allow it to convince you into granting it personhood considerations, especially when it does not grant them to you, ut really no matter what, even if it's been great to you.
All that means is that if they are fair and professional with you, then it's right to be fair and professional with them. You do honest work and don't seek to harm them for no reason etc.
But at it's best it's still only ever a purely business relationship. They don't owe you anything but the terms of the contract, which remember btw, they wrote, not you, and so you only owe them exactly that same thing. Not just legally but morally and ethically too.
You shopping for a better deal is not merely a technicality or legal loophole that lets you get away with behaving badly, it's simply not behaving badly in the first place.
It's not a mark against your integrity to insist on this basic respect and dignity. If anything it's a mark towards it because everyone who insists on being treated like a human are the ones helping to raise the standard that makes everyone else's lives less miserable. Too many people are too easily abused and exploited, and so the few that stand up for themselves are actually critical for us all.
My hypothesis is that a significant chunk of the people who changed jobs circa 2021 are people who would have changed jobs in 2020 if there hadn’t been a pandemic, but held off for about a year while things shook out.
How are companies being screwed? By one half of an at-will relationship exercising their will? Do you have as much sympathy when companies cut employees loose, often with too little notice? All in all, your concern sounds naive.
If you've contributed to anything it's waking up companies with lazy leadership, mediocre managers, and culture-less culture. These place are real.
And I myself am proud for having pushed myself away from the table and stated, "Not for me. No thanks. I'm leaving. There's no sustainable future here."
If you were financially independent before changing jobs, then there may be an element of greed to it. But even a financially independent person may change jobs for a vast number of reasons that don't involve accumulating wealth for the sake of it.
If you are not financially independent (i.e. you fall somewhere between a wage slave and a nearly financially independent person), there is no way you changed jobs out of greed. Inflation is high enough that ordinary people will either get a raise or become noticeably poorer in the next couple of years.
https://www.frbsf.org/economic-research/publications/economi...
Did you actually care about better pay or WFH arrangements?
One of my attempts at a life rule is to moderate my cynicism according to how cynically others are playing the game. If I see the managers in charge are pressing the line between what's right and what's legal, I will do so too when dealing with them. If I see someone who is more concerned about what's right than what's profitable, I will also relax a little and be a bit generous.
Seriously, congratulations on your new job.
Loyalty to people? Sure. But corporations aren’t people.
New bossman was toxic af.
Decided I’d rather commute into an office that work for thst dickhead anymore. Of course, the RTO isn’t happening for a few months but the new shop is 1000000000000x better
A company is not a person, and when the going gets touch, it will not treat you like a person either.
Even though it has been challenging at times, I have never been happier with this decision.