Got fired from one of my 2 jobs

Question

I know most might think I should let it go or man up of some sort but lost currently one of my two jobs as a software dev. I am only 22 and the other job is pretty well paying so I am not in a bad financial situation, this is just an ego/confidence hit to me as in it really hurts deep inside to get fired and makes me think if software dev (especially in startups) is what I should be doing? The fact of telling my SO/family about it even makes me shake, even though its really no big deal. I always have this pressure of being best at what I do.

cowvin · Accepted Answer

Your friends and family won't judge you poorly for this. Don't worry.
Early in my career I lost a job at a startup and it also shook me up. I say "lost" because I asked if I was fired or laid off and they said I could call it whatever I wanted lol.
But yeah, basically, the head of the company had an inhuman work ethic and expected the same from his employees. I got in trouble for leaving work at 10pm on a Friday. I got in trouble for coming in late on the weekend because I was doing laundry. I got in trouble for spending time with my friends on my birthday (on a Saturday).
Basically, startups can be extremely unprofessional so if you get fired by a startup, it's no big deal.

bluehorseray · Answer

Most of the good software devs I know actually only have one job, so sounds like you're back to the baseline. But who knows, keep applying and maybe you can push 4/5+ jobs at once, which would obviously mean you're 4/5 times better than most software devs. Good luck.

ggm · Answer

It won't get easier to talk about by waiting. Waiting just begs the question "why did you wait to tell us"

GianFabien · Answer

I had two jobs when I was 23 for 3+ years. One was a large company and the other at a startup. The startup flamed out. Looking back on those days, I realize that I burnt out from the over-work.You could look at your situation as an opportunity to develop a broader range of interests other than just work. Come clean with your SO/family. Keeping it bottled up only makes it worse for yourself. Ease off the pressure on yourself.

maxharris · Answer

You are far, far more than just your ego. There is a vast world to explore, and fear is holding you back!I thought of sending you links to read and watch, but if you want them, you&rsquo;ll have to allow your curiosity overcome your fear and reach out to me (@maxharris9) on Twitter.

hindsightbias · Answer

Sorry about that, but if you need something related to laugh at:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUJ46Rnh2K8

randomopining · Answer

You seriously care? Why did you get fired?Two jobs is awesome. Was it easy to get that going and did they both know?

endisneigh · Answer

curious - did your other employer know you had another job?

YuriNiyazov · Answer

Sorry about that, dude!

Got fired from one of my 2 jobs

Most of the good software devs I know actually only have one job, so sounds like you're back to the baseline. But who knows, keep applying and maybe you can push 4/5+ jobs at once, which would obviously mean you're 4/5 times better than most software devs. Good luck.

It won't get easier to talk about by waiting. Waiting just begs the question "why did you wait to tell us"

You are far, far more than just your ego. There is a vast world to explore, and fear is holding you back!
I thought of sending you links to read and watch, but if you want them, you’ll have to allow your curiosity overcome your fear and reach out to me (@maxharris9) on Twitter.

Sorry about that, but if you need something related to laugh at:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUJ46Rnh2K8

You seriously care? Why did you get fired?
Two jobs is awesome. Was it easy to get that going and did they both know?

curious - did your other employer know you had another job?

Sorry about that, dude!