Religion aside, how do you experience spirituality?

I really do not understand the question. I understand that plenty of people say "spirituality" and think that they mean the same thing as other people by it. Some of them mean "whatever I or members of my family was getting from religion before, but not anymore because I no longer subscribe to an organized religion."

I think I must have an attenuated sense of spirituality. Many people experience colors differently from others, some are even all the way achromatic. I don't feel like I am missing something. I'm sure there are those who think I am.

Likewise, I am really bad at following a beat in music. Very often, I try to emulate following the beat with conscious thought, and that works poorly as you might imagine. Some music, I follow the beat just fine, but it is explicitly "dance" music, so someone is making the beat very obvious. In that case, I feel that I _am_ missing something.

Seeing "the spirit" at play in your fellow humans, is, I believe, the most direct method of finding the spirit within yourself. All too often folks think they can go it alone with spirituality. In the same autodidactic manner they go about, say, learning to program web servers in Rust. Paradoxical, to be sure, but a lesson discovered all too often by too many too late in life ;)