On the other hand, I have a couple offers from companies that are local to me.
All of them have similar salaries & equity (and arguably similar chances of growth), but the product of the remote one is something I like better (it helps everyday people be healthier).
So, for people that have to work late because of remote work, what has your experience been like? Finishing at 7pm means that I won't be able to do much in the afternoons with my family for example.
I work remotely with most people being in other time zones. My "core hours" are still in my time zone. Nobody expects me to shift my entire day. But in practice, this does result in having to take late meetings a few times per week. The company does try to minimize these things, but it's unavoidable and usually most people are making some sort of compromise on time zones as the team is so spread out. It's not actually bad, because I can in theory just get up later the next day, or take a longer lunch, or leave for the evening and then hop back in for a meeting. But in practice I often just work through the gap because of some personal inability to step away.
Aside from meetings, I just noticed more of a pull to work late because a lot of the communication happens during my evening and night time. This is despite the fact that everyone tries to be considerate, going so far as scheduling messages in each other's time zone sometimes instead of pinging them directly. Sometimes I'll get feedback on a PR toward the end of "my" day, and then feel the urge to address the feedback right away, resulting in quite a few late nights. It's something I'm trying to work on.
Overall though, I really like being half a day away and prefer it to being in the same time zone as everyone else. My mornings are very quiet, letting me focus and not feel the compulsion to be checking if I'm missing something relevant on Slack or some other communication channel all the time. I feel like I'm actually less stressed and getting more done overall (with the caveat that I need to get the overtime under control a bit).
After a few months my boss said we didn’t have to work the shifted schedule and we went to a more normal 8-5 schedule and all was well—from that perspective—however, when you’re putting in 18 hour days, what’s the difference if your schedule is 8-5, 10-7 or whatever?
Take the job you feel is best for you; you may find out the hours may not need to align.