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📣 codenever1234

Why will you mentor me?


I am a software engineer early in my career with about 4-5 years of experience.

I am looking for someone to mentor me, to provide valuable insight and advice on possible career paths and direction I can take.

One of the things that every article about mentor-mentee relationship mentions is that its supposed to be mutually beneficial and when I ask the person to be my mentor, I mention why they should mentor me.

I understand the value that a mentor provides me but I don't see any possible value they can get from helping me out.

What value do you get from mentoring someone in my position ?

  👤 system2 Accepted Answer ✓
You approach this as if it is a religious thing. You have a diploma in a field, just like any other business, you will need to find your own balance and just learn what you like and what you want to improve.

Don't think there will be a father figure software developer show up and take you under his wings. You are reading way too much internet articles regarding "my mentor thought me this, I owe him everything" etc. In real life it doesn't work that way, if you are really thinking of pursuing something to make a living or create something to improve the world, just focus on the subject and learn. Don't expect software development to be a BDSM type of relationship.