HACKER Q&A
📣 aristofun

Do you often feel like your superiors are not better/smarter than you?


Doesn't really matter if it's just your ego or more or less objective parameters — if you strongly believe it's so, what makes you continue working for/with them? (except money)

I'm really curios about psychological aspect of this phenomenon. Please share your personal thoughts and experiences.


  👤 deanmoriarty Accepted Answer ✓
I felt it often. In many cases, I stay for their network. Most of my bosses were always way more connected than myself, and working for them and making them successful leveraging what I could do better than them (tech/analytical skills) made it possible for me to ride their tail and get pulled in nice future opportunities as they moved forward in their career, even across different companies, and decided to bring me along. Many times with minimal/bogus interview processes since I came "highly recommended by the VP". It has probably been what defined my career in terms of success.

In some other cases, I also worked with bosses that were just better than me under any professional dimension you could imagine: technical skills, soft skills, business acumen, wisdom, experience, ...


👤 _benj
I've felt that too until I once decided to take a look at what would it be like to be in their shoes.

Now I have a huge admiration towards my PM and engineering manager.

Writing code by itself doesn't make money, and keeping people content and productive is not an accident either!

So yeah, different people do different things and usually better/smarter is kind of like comparing if an apple is better than a pen.

They are just different.


👤 dingusthemingus
I dont really think of my higher up colleagues as smart or dumb, i think that some of them have relevant experience and some dont really, and different managers have different personalities which is what impacts trying to work together to solve a problem.

For example, some managers like to give you their proposed plan without wanting any input, these people require pushing back in some situations, you could call it poor emotional intelligence, other managers are much more open to suggestions considering me and the underlings will be doing the work, even though managers inital plan is often correct as previous experience justifies their proposed solution.

But yea i dont really doubt the intelligence of people really unless they continue to repeat mistakes and fail to remedy those mistakes.


👤 zn44
I'm a boss (founder & CTO) and I consider my reportees often equal or superior to me on many aspects of our work. The main reason i'm in my possition is willingness and confidence to take the risk and start a business living of savings.

👤 fiftyacorn
The issue is often not realising that they have different skills and priorities from stakeholders that may not make immediate sense to you

👤 perilunar
No. I've never had a boss that was smarter than me, but I've had plenty that were more knowledgeable, experienced, or wiser. Don't think of bosses/managers as 'superiors', but as colleagues.

👤 AnIdiotOnTheNet
Yes, but so what? He has to deal directly with the owner of the company, heads of other departments, any HR issues, etc and I don't. He can keep his money and position.

👤 joshxyz
privately? of course the narcissistic me is better.

publicly? oh dear im cool with them thinking they're better. they are superiors for a reason. they have bigger picture of things than me, and have more responsibilities than me.

im just a cog in the machine doing the bare minimum to survive.


👤 CRConrad
> [W]hat makes you continue working for/with them?

Nothing. Except money.


👤 mgsurti
yes