* Treat sleep like it is your full time job. Aim to be in bed early enough you don’t need an alarm. THIS is the big one that will turn things around
* Eat well and exercise. This sounds trite but it’s very important. Cook meals rather than takeout. If you don’t have time for the gym, a 7 min bodyweight workout each day is easy and effective. Fit in walks
* Time. Burnout is basically breaking yourself. Doing the above and then just waiting will give your brain space to heal. But it takes a certain length of time
* Close loops. If you have stuff worrying you, handle it. Like, if the shower is leaky, get it fixed. Desk messy, clean it up. Don’t give your brain stuff to worry about
* Actively find relaxing stuff to do that actually relaxes you. Like some leisure is junk food and some refreshes you. Figure out which
Take a good, hard look at your nutrition. Nutritional deficiencies or imbalances can cause all sorts of severe issues, including mental issues such as loss of focus and energy (and worse).
Regular exercise can help with energy, as can getting enough sleep. Make sure you're doing this.
Take a break and do something actually relaxing for a while.
Fortunately, it doesn't sound like you have really severe burnout (where you're severely depressed and absolutely hate and loathe what you do, and never want to do it again)... in which case I'd recommend switching careers, and the sooner the better. In your case it sounds like more like a mild case, where you have a good chance of getting back to work if you take care of yourself.
Still, I'd ask myself: is this really what I want to do in the long run? If not, you might want to start exploring other options... and the sooner the better. It's much harder to switch careers when you get older.
Seeing a therapist might be a good idea too... a real therapist, not one that reflexively fills your mouth with pills.
People in the replies are saying "get a hobby", which isn't a bad idea if you find yourself over-working. Personally, my burnout is more like inability to initiate tasks and focus during the workday. I can go cycling or play video games no problem, any time, but work specifically is a huge barrier.
The only solution I've seen work is to take an extended break, and identify what about your work is burning you out. Do you need more autonomy? Do you need more guidance? Purpose? Connection with your coworkers? Personally, I realized I wouldn't ever use our product (it's very complicated for little benefit compared to the competition) and it has mountains of tech debt nobody cares about cleaning up, which has really killed my motivation. So I'm going to quit soon and take a few months to deliberately search for a company doing something that seems valuable/important.
In hindsight, for me burning out wasn't really about being tired or having carpal tunnel, it was an emotional exhaustion that was due to a complete misalignment between expectation and reality. Specifically, I was very disillusionment with what I was working on. If you're 4 years out of college, this is right around the time where many people become disillusioned. Your friends may be in the same boat, you can tell if you're seeing IG photos of your friends backpacking in Asia, launching some social impact startup, or taking a sudden interest in "authentic" activities such as baking bread. The point is, many people are experiencing the same thing.
What helped me was taking some time off from coding completely, and finding a more interest project to work on. Eventually you have to realize all stories about what tech or life could be are just that: fairy tales. You have to define your own whys and work from that. On a daily basis, what helped was to have another goal that I pursued with just as much focus, for me it is running. But the balance really helps. Meeting friends from different industry also helps, they make you see that your struggles are common, and what you're worried about is probably not worth it. Also, this might be the last time in your life where you can meet and form "real relationships" before the chill of adulthood really sets in, so treasure it.
Everything.
I'm certain that even astronauts are "over it" by the 3rd or 4th time they go to space. The key is seeking out orthogonal fields. Luckily with programming, there are so many of those that you're only limited by the human lifespan. Tired of crunching ML data? Try game programming. It's almost a completely different discipline, while still building on the things you know.
Above all DO NOT FEEL BAD. One of my good friends is a public figure who is known for being unbelievably productive, and he recently burned out and had to recharge too. Burn out is nothing to be ashamed of.
I spent a week going to the mountains and not looking at my computer for anything, and it helped me a ton. I'll be back burned out soon though if I don't change something. I need less work/burden so I have to cut something. It won't be easy to decide however.
A more important question, I think, is to ask why you build a life where you worked so much that you burned yourself out. Burnout just means you depleted the stock of energy you have, and you did it persistently over time to the point where all the neat tricks you can use for motivation no longer work.
And you did that, like we all do, for good reasons. It'll probably rhyme with all the reasons we get given socially – like how work is perceived as good, and you want to advance in your career. But there are also deeply personal reasons that you learned that make burnout a consequence you accept, even as you watch yourself deplete yourself.
If you ask yourself where and how you learned to work so hard that you deplete yourself, then you can actually give yourself good answers about how to overcome burnout. Burnout, again, is just the end state of a life you learned you had to live. Fixing burnout means listening to what compels you to do that, so that you can stop doing it. And maybe more importantly, you'll also have to notice what on earth you would do other than following the path that leads you to burnout.
It's those two things together that help stop burnout: stopping the things that burn you out, and finding out what actually gives you energy and makes your life fuller and more vibrant, alive. You don't have to just spend the rest of your life managing the former, where you may not end up in acute burnout but where you're still constantly managing an always shrinking reserve of energy in the service of things that always shrink it. You have to dream a little bigger, and ask: who am I, and what do I need that makes me and my life fuller?
As others have pointed out, a good therapist is a great person to help you navigate this. Burnout is pernicious. It's a self-harming thing that you learned to do because it gave you good things, so you build up all sorts of protections that prevent you from noticing it's bad for you. A therapist is a person who helps you get to a more honest view of what is going on in that dynamic, and where it is rooted in you.
“Your bp is up, and you have low potassium, let’s check your hormone levels. Turned out I had high levels of a stress hormone which caused the high bp. CT scan, oh look you have a tumor on an adrenal gland. Kick off 1.5 years of blood tests, procedures, etc. I even died once.
So in addition to being flooded with stress hormones, they whacked my T levels.
Upshot is, now I’m fine, not burnt out. All good.
Don’t ignore potential areas that can cause you problems.
They aren't breaks or indulgences, they are the things you actively choose to do and to structure your time around, and the effect of being someone who can do that is what makes you successful in a work situation. Suffering is stupid. (I have spent a lot of time being stupid, and have burned out more than once.)
There is zero value to anyone if you burn out. Your real job is not to just "work," it is to manage your time in such a way that you provide value and can even commit with a high degree of certainty to providing future value.
Radically, I would go so far as to say that a person who does not have hobbies or other outside interests to structure their time around is someone who does not manage their time well enough to be trusted with anything more than occasional odd jobs and transaction based tasks.
Take some scheduled music lessons, do an online course, get a dog, or get a personal trainer or something that is a scheduled time commitment, and use that discipline to manage your work instead of just doing it all the time with more effort and expecting a different result.
If you don't have the savings, just start doing a worse job. Prioritize starting on time and leaving on time over everything else. Lean into using personal days whenever you feel like it. Push hard to get out of meetings that aren't valuable to you or add to your stress. Start putting money away so you can quit when you're ready. Start looking for a "life raft" job - something that isn't offensive and low stakes, just to get you out of your current gig. Doesn't have to pay well or really be interesting. Just get you out to a fresh start.
Find other activities that spark passion and intellectual curiosity; I could spend much of my intellectual energy just thinking about designing my gardening plots and be satisfied.
Learning to keep emotional distance from my day-to-day profession was one of the best things I did. I log on, mostly enjoy what I do, collect my paycheck, and use it for the things and people I love.
Running and fitness are a huge part of my life and have helped me overcome all sorts of bullshit. I went through a really nasty health scare and if it hadn't been for running (it was technically waddling at the time) I would have either died or killed myself. Running fixed my problems in three ways - I started sleeping, eating and living better.
Running has also given a sense of where I bonk and when I need to take a break. I've sometimes been guilty of working myself too hard when I need a break. The 'joy' of running is that whenever I do that, I need a physical therapist. Over the last few years, this has turned into an 'I don't care' attitude about things related to my health. I'm tired but need to get something done? Who cares? I'm bonking. I'm tired at 75 miles and don't want to do the last 25? Fuck it, who cares??? I just ran 75 miles....
Otherwise, believe in yourself and love the hell out of yourself. I'm in my mid 40s and seriously bud, I'm beaming with pride. You are the realest of the real deals. You have got this. Reach out if you need friend or running partner.
Listen. To. Your. Body. If you are financially stable enough, take an immediate break, go on vacation, focus on your relationships, friends and other hobbies you have neglected in favour for your job.
If you are not financially enough, talk to your employer, explain yourself and negotiate a reasonable solution.
Once you have distanced yourself from your profession, try out other things as well, it might show you that you have a different calling, or you’ll re-discover the appreciation for your old profession.
> I know this is common in our field and I feel a bit stupid/guilty for it happening to me so soon in my career.
Lastly, do not feel ashamed and guilty, everyone has their limits, discovering them before it’s to late is actually a strength! Talk to a therapist, to get some emotional support and possibly learn ways to deal with future ones - once you had one, you are more prone to it.
First, maybe it's not really burnout. Try taking a bit of vacation, hanging with friends, clocking a little less than 40 hours a week, sleeping eating and exercising better, or learning some new hobby. If that all does nothing, then you may have real burnout, which needs a more extreme solution.
1. Step back and unplug from the professional world for 6+ months. Do something totally new and orthogonal. Wait until you get thrilled at the prospect of joining a new team and only then get back into it.
2. Take a motivational inventory and see if there's anything with the power to continue to drive you in your current situation. You may want to talk to a therapist to work on some of this life goal stuff. I'd personally recommend someone who practices positive psychology or Logotherapy. If you find something in your current situation that has the spark, lean into it for all it's worth.
I've been there and back again a few times. It gets better if you work on it.
I've jumped to software engineering and was feeling so much better. The problem with the original data engineering job is that the projects are more garbage in and garbage out then it is actually working. This created huge amount of stress for me despite everyone in the chain pushing for the same thing. I can't do it, jumped ship to a much more demanding work environment but I have liked it so much more.
There are great data science/engineering projects, but some of them are not, and some of them won't be despite what it appeared to be. Unfortunately, not all business realize this. I hope your troubles are not related to this because I can see how hard it is to jump out of that feeling except by leaving.
All the self-help in the world won't work if either you are not well-suited to the role you are in, and are therefore becoming stressed or otherwise the work environment/management is toxic and doesn't suit your personality or expectations.
Even when I am tired, I can get into my work because it inspires and challenges me and is within my ability level (but isn't too easy as to be boring).
Turn of all computers, go outside, force yourself to "exist" without any stimulation like your cell phone, caffeine, alcohol etc. All of these things prevent us from experiencing boredom which means recovering from burnout takes longer.
Burnout is a normal part of the creative process and expect it to happen again.
Was a bit bored but being able to pause and rest made a world of difference
Try being a beginner again at something.
After I burnt out, I started making YouTube videos. Even though I'm a total beginner at it, I'm having a lot of fun, and am making tangible progress!
I recommend starting a journal and writing down all the things you think are causing the burn out, especially when you are feeling overwhelmed.
Some areas to think about:
- Your expectations: where do they come from?
- Habits and routines: are they healthy? According to you or others?
After about a few weeks or a month of doing this, I recommend going to a park or somewhere quiet you don't usually go (or maybe, never have been) and reading over what you've written. The point of this is to get you out of your default setting where you might fall into a positive feedback loop where you can't imagine other possibilities or where you automatically shutdown any kind of solution proposal.
Start by prioritizing one issue to work on, and start recording your progress on that thing and see where it takes you. When that gets better, take on the next thing, etc. Small, incremental improvements. This applies to anything you think is a problem: sleep, exercise, job satisfaction, etc.
Something to realize here is that you want to make as much progress on things you can control at the time, and you won't always be able to effectively tackle certain problems with your current self or tools.
It's sort of like those games where you get stuck in an area because you haven't done the pre-requisites nobody told you about yet. It's OK to give up on something you're making no progress on (as long as you tried everything and kept track of it) and do something else you can make progress on.
Advices for Burnout and Depression
Find a group and start cycling with them. Get up to 3-4 times a week. Long, steady rides. Build up your cardio.
Find a group and start cycling with them. Get up to 3-4 times a week. Long, steady rides. Build up your cardio.
Find a group and start cycling with them. Get up to 3-4 times a week. Long, steady rides. Build up your cardio.
Find a group and start cycling with them. Get up to 3-4 times a week. Long, steady rides. Build up your cardio.
Check back in after a couple months.
Other ideas (ymmv): Pets
Is this burnout? Or a transition from play to work?
* Don't start to define yourself as burned out. There is magic in naming things and adding a label to yourself has the tendency to reinforce the characteristic. From diagnoses to identifications, realize that putting a negative label on yourself might be part of the problem
* Do identify cause and effect. What works, what doesn't. Maybe alcohol, social interactions, certain kinds of work, certain habits, diet, exercise, people, places, etc. can have effects positive and negative. These effects can also change. There are things I could do at 19 I couldn't do at 25 and are laughably impossible at 33.
* Do a phase change. Maybe redecorate, purge useless posessions, start a new diet, a new daily routine, hobby, activity, move to a new city, start a new job, whatever.
* Take care of yourself, do stuff in moderation. Getting just a little bit older can make things you could ignore impossible to ignore any more. Sleep is super important and good sleep. Try out different things.
* Realize that a job is just a job. Maybe you want to accept it for what it is and let yourself be excited by something else for a while.
* Read works by stoics, learn to accept things as they come and find happiness by buying it. You'll find that peace of mind and be bought very cheaply by accepting things you have no control over and just letting them happen.
* The honeymoon might just be over. All of them are eventually. It can just be a case of not realizing that this is what happens. Beginnings are the same as middles, and there's no reason to beat yourself up about it.