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📣 ivos_android

What are your thoughts on an app to help introverts make friends?


What are your thoughts on this business idea.

App that helps lonely introverts build a circle of 3 to 5 close friends.


  👤 agent008t Accepted Answer ✓
15 years ago such 'app' used to be called a message board. There were many of these in existence. A lot of them were small enough that after a while, you would start to recognize usernames. Many had moderation relaxed enough that you could have fun threads about nothing in particular.

Anonymity was encouraged, which was great - it made absolutely no difference what one looked like, what gender they were etc.

There was no specific focus on making friends. In my opinion, joining something that has a friend-making purpose immediately makes it a bit awkward and makes interactions somewhat forced. Much better if friendships are forged 'accidentally', which happened a lot on those websites.

Threads and replies would be sorted by latest post, not by any notion of 'rating', and threads would never really expire. These made conversation more natural and discouraged people from just posting what they thought would be popular or risk not being even noticed.

After a while, people might have exchanged instant messenger contacts, which also had the benefit of being anonymous. People also were not online all the time, so could 'disconnect' any time, which also helped with feeling comfortable about it.

Search engines would show these message boards in search results, which meant that like-minded people would find them in similar ways and already have something in common.

Then antisocial media came along and made us all less connected.


👤 afarrell
I would focus on helping them find things to do in their city, friend-match based on that, and encourage repeated hangouts.

Why?

1. People usually make friends through engaging in common interests. This takes time.

2. Building a business takes time. Selling tickets to local events and products/coupons to local small businesses gives you have a sustainable revenue model whose incentives are aligned with your mission.

3. You could easily expand into being a dating app for married couples who are bad at planning date nights.


👤 meristohm
In general I say these friends are found as we suffer together through school or summer camp. For those less-fortunate, or who fall out of friendship, I can see an app like this being useful for some. I’m more likely to make friends incidentally, doing something where the focus is not to make friends. An app whose express purpose is connecting people like this might be trying too hard? Maybe not—-dating platforms are useful, for example. I made some temporary friends during my MMORPG days, time I now consider unhealthily spent. I hope your project works and helps people find friends—-good luck!

👤 ElectricMind
It will work as long as Gender is anonymous. As soon as it appears, same age old game of cat-mouse begins. Guys will chase girls. It is so fundamental to us, maybe you can find a way to escape this :)

👤 cosiverse
As an introvert myself, I think that the idea is fantastic! I suffer from anxiety and making friends can be very difficult, but having an application to be able to connect us introverts to each other....sounds like a very good idea!

👤 moocow01
Lonely introvert... as an introvert myself I find this to be an oxymoron