HACKER Q&A
📣 hello_world_btc

How to deal with financial regret of what could have been?


I'm in 31 and I know that I'm lucky in the sense that I have a lot going for me: youth, family, savings, etc. but of late I've been having a lot of regret thinking about the past and the decisions I made surrounding btc that I owned early on.

A lot of this is probably due to missing out but at one point I had enough that at current market prices would be just north of 100 million USD. It's honestly an insanely absurd number to think about but could have completely changed the trajectory of my life.

While I made some money selling (2013), it was just enough to pay off my loans, buy a place and invest a bit but nothing close to its current valuation. So another thing that bums me out is that I just couldn't see it growing much beyond what it was then. I understood the use cases but didn't really see the absurd growth as a possibility.

Of late, I've been having these obsessive and debilitating thoughts about a life that could have been possible if I had the foresight to hold on to even half of what I had instead of cashing out then.

The fact that I will probably only achieve a similar level of financial success is if I get extremely lucky over the next few decades while trading the next 20-30 years of my life working is a bit depressing. I have nothing against hard work and that's probably the route I'll be taking now but given the choice of that instead of investing in experiencing the world around me more richly and deeply, helping out my family and friends in a more meaningful way, I just feel awful amounts of regret at having thrown away a winning hand.

These recent thoughts have been triggered by reading some old comments of mine about bitcoin on online forums and I'm having difficulty shutting these thoughts down. I know the answer on some levels is therapy. Is there any other advice besides get over it and therapy though? I'm assuming there are probably others that may have been in similar positions?


  👤 tom_mellior Accepted Answer ✓
> While I made some money selling (2013), it was just enough to pay off my loans, buy a place and invest a bit but nothing close to its current valuation.

I bought my first Bitcoins around 2011 and did a little bit of trading and ordering pizzas and whatnot early on. I think cumulatively I may have had about 60 Bitcoin over these last ten years. Early last year I sold the last ones to get a nice apartment. So in some ways I'm in a similar situation, though I would "only" have about a million Euros if I cashed out now vs. your 100 million.

I don't have regrets about buying pizzas for prices that would now correspond to extra rooms to my apartment or whatever: If we early market participants hadn't been willing to spend Bitcoin and to sell it off to other traders, there wouldn't have been a market, and the project would have died. Interested parties wouldn't have been able to get Bitcoin, the infrastructure around it wouldn't have developed, and the price today would be zero. We took one for the team, and we both did profit from it nicely as well. Yes, others profited more, but that doesn't keep me awake at night.

What I do have regret-like feelings about is selling around March-April last year, in the middle of a local minimum. Waiting until now, in hindsight, would have netted me close to 5x the returns, but it seemed highly implausible at the time. And I'm happy with the place I bought, even compared to significantly more expensive properties I see on the market.

Um, I have no real conclusion except I can relate to how you feel. I find my job interesting, but often tedious, and am looking forward to saving up and hopefully being able to retire around age 50-55. Hang in there! And yes, therapy/mild antidepressants are good things to try. Good luck!


👤 jimmyvalmer
> at one point would be just north of 100 million USD

What a fatuous remark! It's one thing to have junked a painting that turned out to be a Rembrandt, or let your one true love "get away."

It's another utterly banal thing to have closed a market position in a liquid commodity. Your having closed it in 2013 is just as unremarkable as your "losing out" on any number of bets you could make *today* which would result in 100M in profit a year or even an hour from now.


👤 troydavis
> I know the answer on some levels is therapy. Is there any other advice besides get over it and therapy though?

A third approach is to acknowledge that, indeed, if you could predict the future, you’d be fabulously wealthy, but there’s nothing different about this example than any other one. If you’d purchased Tesla in January 2020, you’d be up about 8x, if you bought call options on X in Y, etc. The fact that you owned Bitcoin at one point doesn’t make it any more or less applicable, since you could have bought it at that time anyway.

If you want to beat yourself up over something, pick a decision that had a positive NPV at that time, not a decision that requires seeing the future (like this one).


👤 mindcrime
That's a pretty specific situation you're dealing with so I don't know if I have any useful advice to offer. I can just say that throughout most of my life I've dealt with regret the same way, no matter the circumstances. I remind myself that it's a stupid and useless emotion to indulge in, since there's no way to go back and change anything. I tell myself "acknowledge things you regret long enough to learn whatever lesson was to be learned, and then forget about it."

Of course that's sometimes easier said than done, but replaying that thought in my head usually helps.


👤 deanmoriarty
The strict rule I adopted for myself is: when you buy something, you won’t be able to sell more than 50% of the position for 10 years.

This makes me rather conservative, and I mostly end up buying VTSAX.

I have Bitcoin that I bought in 2014, and sold 50% of my position in the bull run of 2017. I cannot sell any until 2024, even if I’d probably benefit by selling some now :-)

Sticking to this rule helps minimizing regret. Obviously it won’t completely catch investing in AAPL early etc.


👤 emrah
Hindsight is 20/20. Try not to judge your past actions with current knowledge, that's simply unfair.

The question is did you make the most of the information you had available at the time? If yes, then there is nothing else you could have done. You couldn't have acted differently since you couldn't have known what you know today.

If no, then try to learn from the experience and move on. You can't change the past so no point in dwelling on it.


👤 jitendrac
Just let it go, I came across bitcoin when it was valued at 5-6 Cents, I had spare $500 and wanted to long-term invest $100 into it, I even created my cold wallet, But later it slipped off of my mind and I lost opportunity of having 1500+ BTC.

Do I regret ?, I don't know.

I just let it go.


👤 postit
I have >200 bitcoins locked into a wallet I've used to pay for a seedbox in 2012 :)

At least you paid your bills.