I donate to charity a lot. I'm not looking for anything in return. I'm not trying to be known as someone who gives to the great cause. I do what I have to do because it should be that way -- if everyone gave a little bit, and for my case, I tend to favor charities that help terminally ill children, veterans, or shelter animals - it makes a difference to those who need it. In fact, any time my friends on Facebook or anywhere has a charity for their birthday or something, I often donate for the good of the cause. I donate at least a dozen times a year, usually around $25 each time, so we'll say that I donate around $300 a year.
In 2020, I donated nearly $2,000 to various causes... and I did want to donate and I don't have any regrets or anything for donating, but I realize that donating so much -- I went into a bit of debt not realizing it, and like I said, I'm not looking for anything in return -- however: when I've ran my own charities or asked for help, I realize that the people I expected to help me... did not lift a finger to help. Fortunately, there were others who stepped in their place and helped. But the ones I thought I could count on... weren't there for me. While I probably will return back to my normal charitable giving, I overexerted myself last year and am paying a price for it.
So I'll likely be taking a break from donating large quantities to any organization this year. And no, this isn't an invitation to ask me for charity. I just realize that one man, me, can only do so much. And while you can help others out... I suppose the lesson to learn or unlearn there is: there are some unsung heroes in this world that make things happen.. and its great to appreciate them, but realize that not everyone, who you think is close to you and has your back, is going to help you, or even have your back.
I am a very regular Hacker News reader, visit here almost daily and find lots of interesting reading. However if you ask me today what did I learn in the last year, my answer will barely scratch the surface of everything I have read. Effectively, it means that the time I have spent reading was merely spent on a diversion, not learning. I still hope that everything I have read is somehow absorbed in my unconsciousness, but being honest with myself I understand that should I have taken at least a few notes, and should I have reviewed those notes at least once or twice during the year, I would have probably learnt much more.
Tangentially: unlearn to read mostly blogs and learn to start more books; unlearn to be only motivated by doing things and spend more time learning new things; unlearn to pile up open tabs with "things to read later because I don't have enough focus for it now" (and I don't know how to solve the latter yet).
A single blog post (oh the irony...) that acted as a catalyst for the thinking process that lead me to this decision: https://maartenvandoorn.nl/reading-guide (It was previously shared somewhere on the HN by the way).
It scared the shit out of me, and when I looked at the mirror I was all twisted with a shoulder forward and pushed up, the other shoulder was lowered, and my back was bent forward and tilted to the side of the downward shoulder.
I couldn't lift my left arm without pain because my shoulder blade was coming outwards.
It was a fucking mess. I was baffled how did I get into that? Did I develop some neurological problem? Did I hurt myself during sleep and damaged something? Nah...
...it was all because of years of poor posture and sitting for hours in front of the PC.
So I'm committed to unlearn the bad sitting/posture habits that I've acquired for more than a decade. It's not just about standing desks/ergonomic chairs, we need to move regularly, rest in different positions other than sitting, and develop the strength required to keep a good posture.
Also, tunnel vision. If work becomes stressful, I find myself only able to focus on work, even outside of work hours. I have made it my goal to be more mindful of my stress levels, but also to make sure I don't forget about my responsibilities in my life.