Started job 3 months ago...not going as planned

> How long do I stick it out before looking elsewhere or even returning to my last job as I left on good terms?

Eject, as long as this isn't going to add to an existing pattern in your employment history.

People in the position to hire have more than likely been in the situation where they were sold a bill of goods, gotten on the job, and had to make the same choice.

But if this is going to be, say the third short term gig in a row, then it's going to be a hard sell that the problem has been the employers and not you.

Assuming it's the former, when it comes time to talk to other potential employers and interviewers, state the scenario factually and without rancor. "I was told during the recruiting process that we would be writing the platform in Node, turns out we were hand punching Fortran cards."

Edit (hit submit too soon): if it's the latter, then you need to stick it out for at least 12 months. There are some great comments in the thread about changing the culture, etc. I would add to those to shift your mentality from "this is my employer" to "this is a client for whom I'm going to do the best work I can for 12 months." I can yap a lot more about that shift but if you can create a mental firewall between you and the employer and minimize emotional engagement, doing the time will be easier. :)

I know one thing: It's not going to get better!

At least unless you channel your inner Napoleon and start transforming the organization yourself.

I don't have that in me, and most people don't, but I hear it can be done.

I've had this type of job before. Twice actually. One was for 2 weeks (which I left for personal reasons not job related), and the other was a similar situation to yours (which I left after 4 months). I just didn't list them on my resume/application at places I applied to later. When asked about the gaps, "I just needed to take some time off. For N years, I've never really taken a long vacation so decided to do that".

If you've got the cash and don't have to have your next gig set up, give your two weeks now and start the mental healing.

My anecdata of one: As an employer/founder, I wouldn't hold a short stint on your job history against you. I'd give it an equal chance of being a poor employer vs. you not working out. Would likely just ask you about it in an interview. If it were a few short stints in a row, then that might give me pause. But in my experience, this situation is more common than you'd think and any good employer/recruiter is going to be able to look past it.

Would you want to go back to your previous job? It's possible they might want you back if you left on good terms. Would be easier, cheaper, and faster for them than backfilling your position.

I've been there. I had a job where after 3 months... There was a crapton of technical debt, we had a new PM that was useless, no one seemed to know anything, every user story was written for everyone except me, yada yada. I wanted to bash my head in daily. Then one day it got better. The hung on long enough to find a few people who had been around long enough to know a bit about what they were talking about, and then I started learning how they stay sane. A lot of it involved mastering how to tell people they needed to up their game in communication before I was gonna do work they asked me to do.

No magic answer, but in general I find I'd rather work on a fucked up environment where I can make incremental improvement than a good-enough-for-people-who-aren't me environment where everyone is to comfortable to tolerate any changes.

Have you chatted to your manager about how you feel? They might not know how bad the situation is, or may be in a similarly tough situation. If they don't want to chat you can always try grab a coffee with one of their peers or their manager. People further up the chain might be pretty surprised by what is happening, and a bit of initiative on your part should get recognised.

If they turn you down or you get negative feedback about how you are feeling in the team you should get out of there for sure

No real manager and colleagues who sleep during the day? This sounds like a dream job. You're free to do what you want. Don't rush and quit, work on whatever interests you. If Agile, "transformation" and "change" floats your boat - start doing that. If you really want a job doing something else, start training yourself for those interviews

Be the change you want to see! Did this job offer a substantial bump in pay? If so ride it out while trying to improve the culture\processes. Seems like it's very slow pace so you can spend time leveling up some skills you may be interested in and even implement some side projects to improve the processes and present them to management. If they aren't receptive bounce with a few cool projects under your belt and a couple extra months of pay.

I can't think of a job that I have had that was perfectly described in the job posting. Something is always different.

As far as bad jobs, there is always some opportunity. If there is free time, work on something else or take online classes if the company would own anything you work on. If you are stuck doing busy work, automate.

It is also fair to jump ship. Not every opportunity is worth it. I would say, before you go, try to learn what happened to make this environment so bad. It will be useful later.

Good luck.

Leave.

Feel no shame in it either, it sounds like the company misrepresented some or all of the role and the team.

Find another role, give standard notice, leave on good terms, but control your departure and exit, don't wait around for things to improve.

You can do this once without any other company batting an eye. If you keep doing this several times in a row then it could be a red flag to hiring managers. I wouldn't worry about it, just put in your 2 weeks and use it as a learning experience.

If you're planning to return to a previous position better sooner than later. Either way you should look to getting out of there.

I think 3 months is long enough to figure out if a company is a good fit for you or not. If you're suffering then leave. Particularly if you enjoyed the last place you worked. Folks may ask but just tell them you left of your own accord and you didn't feel like a good fit for the team. Don't do anything suddenly unless you have the cash to make it a month or so or a job already lined up. The leave, be nice about it, and never look back. I did two short stints of around 6 months each before ending up at my current place of employment and they didn't ask anything when I got hired.

Lemme tell you a story...

First week on the job, I'm reporting to an executive multiple layers above where I would typically be, because everyone in between had suddenly been moved / left / positions never filled. I have a contractor reporting to me who is interviewing to be my boss. At the end of the first week, several other managers take me aside and tell me I need to get rid of that contractor ASAP. This sets the tone for the next year, where I have at least four different managers that I can recall. A year later when I'm interviewing for an internal promotion, that I "didn't move fast enough" to remove that contractor (who went on to Google...) is held against me, but I otherwise win the interview loop - only to have the position given to someone else out of essentially nepotism (...and that didn't go well for anyone, but we'll leave it at that). BTW - the team I was working on (as a solo developer...) was the only one in the company generating reliable profits, essentially funding the rest of the (public, at the time mid-sized name brand) company.

This isn't even the only story I have like this in my career. Point being - many of us have accidentally walked into jobs or contracts where things aren't what they seem or what was promised. If you like the overall company and think you can get an internal transfer at some point in the near (-ish) future, then stay. If you think that it was just a big mistake all around, then leave and be thankful that the economy is in good shape and that there are jobs in most metro areas for technical people (unlike after the dotCom / 9/11 meltdown, lemme tell you about that...)

3 months is a long enough time to stick it out. If there is no progress or no light at the end of the tunnel, it is time for your exit. Put your 2 weeks notice period in. Do not burn any bridges and exit stage to the left. Toxic environments are a reality. Make sure you do a lot more research for your next gig. Otherwise, if you keep finding same type of shops and jump ship every few months, the resume will not look good.

I would leave. I had a job last April and I left it in November because it was so boring. I keep jobs where I find I am in a win-win scenario. If I am learning and doing things I find interesting and I feel my contributions are appreciated I continue the work. My interview process at the last company was deceptive as well. I should have left sooner.

edit - expanded info.

I would say that if you see a possibility of recognition 2-3 levels up then you should be the leader that they need. You mentioned "large" so this may be the unlikely option.

However, if you see a chance of leveling up your career faster than in a job you love (but slower advancement), then you should "take over" and put the "owner hat" on -- what decision would the owner (or the board or the shareholders) of this company do and do that. Even if you are 10% better than the next person, that should be evident to the people around you and if this will be visible to people that matter.

You are getting PAID to do a job so you can complain about the job not being right for YOU but a "professional" makes sure that you are doing the job to benefit the company first. Even if it is not with your current position, this attitude and outlook will reward you eventually.

Good luck!

Most companies I've worked for have a formal trial/probationary period of some sort, typically 90 days. Personally, I consider that to be a two-way street -- I'm trialling them just as much as they're trialling me. I have never had a problem with leaving within that window. For the few companies I've worked for that have no such period, I just figure 90 days anyway.

I've left a few jobs that, like yours, were not what I expected -- usually on the last day of the trial period.

Not suggesting an action for you, but if I were in your shoes, I'd just do the same: I'd stick it out for three months and if there's no sign that anything will be improving, I'd move on.

I was in a similar situation once. In the time between my offer letter and the day I started, the company fired every team lead and wanted to position me as a person that would help get the office in line with SF expectations. It was a culture nightmare. Beyond that, there was no engineering leadership at my location and the code was a mess. I could deal with the code, but not while dealing with the anxiety that the culture produced. I quit at three months. To his credit, the CTO was cool with it, noting that three months or less is basically the trial period, and if you back out of the job, no problem.

I'd quit if you can. Pay attention to the red flags.

I would do as others have suggested, hand your notice in now and start looking for your next thing. Maybe try contracting for a while? No need to explain this short stint at all then.

I'm in a similair situation right now myself but almost a year into it. The job description and job title absolutely does not match up with the reality, no leadership / direction and I really struggle with motivation. I have mentioned this but it still continues.

I think the only thing left for me to do is quit, the only problem with that is I have a nice remote deal that would be hard to match. Feeling kind of stuck. I might try contracting myself.

I'm not in the CS world at all but if you're unhappy at a job, start looking for a new one NOW. I used to dig graves and was outside6 days a week with minimal shade. The first time I got sun poisoning I immediately started looking for another job, even took a 2$~ pay cut because being inside in air conditioning was worth not cooking in the sun all day smelling obscene amounts of flowers in various states of decay while smelling diesel exhaust constantly.

Is there any reason to not look now? It sounds like there is a substantial amount of free time. Do some interview prep and start interviewing before you lose all your energy.

I ran into a situation about the same as you. I just explain things to places I was interviewing with that the situation didn't match the interview process and despite my best efforts, I just have to move one. Now, I was lucky that I had been laid off and this was the ``rebound job'', so I didn't have a history of changing jobs. Only one potential employer had an issue with them, but I did find a very good job and moved on.

It sounds like most of your stress is being caused by not having a Product Manager. You should find out what the deal is there from your manager, and if you don't like the answer, then consider leaving. Beyond that I would say, don't leave a job just because it isn't a dev utopia when you walk through the door. A better measure of when to leave a job is when you know that your goals and theirs don't align and never will.

I'm curious how much do jobs like this (this=allow you to sleep on the job while meeting in a conference room) pay? is it north of 150K USD base?

Why can't you raise your hand up to be PM?

> I feel like I was sold something in the interview process that is not accurate.

I would say that's standard practice, on both sides of the table. Everyone tries to put their best foot forward in an interview. Anything not written in the contract might simply have been said to try to close the deal.

Large companies are not known for their amenability to change.

Large companies usually have many different products and teams. It depends on the company, but if you can move to a different org/team/product, then I think it's better than quitting after only 3-months, unless the culture is too toxic or stressful, which doesn't sound to be the case based on your post.

Just start applying elsewhere. If it's the kind of place you can take a nap at, it's also the kind of place where you can leave at lunch for an interview and put out applications while you're dialed into a pointless meeting. Just don't get stuck there.

I've been in the exact same scenario and left my job after about four months. It didn't impact my future job searches at all outside of hiring managers saying "Hey, looks like you left that job fairly quickly, why's that?" All they needed to hear was that it wasn't a good fit and that I was sold something different during the interview process.

If you feel like there's still potential with the company you're at, be straight with your manager and tell them how you're feeling diplomatically. Otherwise, I'd start sending feelers out elsewhere.

Assuming you left your previous job on good terms and want to go back, reach back out! I've been at companies where people boomeranged back ranging from a few months to a week. It's not as uncommon as you think.

I'm gonna play devil's advocate here and point out that apparently this is the kind of place where people can in fact fall asleep during work hours, even during calls. That opens up a lot of possibilities. How about doing the bare minimum and working on bettering your skills on your own? Or even do some side hustle?

Just bounce if you're not going to grow. Lots of great jobs out there.

No point to stay if you know it is not working out for you